美文欣赏：寂寞是种流行病

美文欣赏：寂寞是种流行病

　　寂寞是种流行病

　　寂寞是一种人人都得过的流行病，不仅仅是孤独无依的老人，不仅仅是没有玩伴的孩子，寂寞的印记其实在我们每个人身上都能找到。

　　贾君鹏，你妈妈喊你回家——很平常的一句话，却成了今年一个热门而流行的网络语。当初，仅仅是那些玩游戏的人的无聊之作，后来却演变成无数网民参与的网络事件。寂寞吗？很寂寞。寂寞了才会沉迷游戏，寂寞了才会参与那些其实很无聊的网络事件。寂寞的网民们，寂寞的宅男宅女们，他们的时间和精力需要发泄的地方呀。

　　今天，你偷菜了吗？很简单的一句话，却成了风靡办公室的网络游戏。游戏毕竟是游戏，得花时间和精力。只因为你寂寞，你要随大流，参与到这种大家都玩的'游戏当中。如果你不玩，你往往会因为没共同语言而陷入难以自拔的寂寞当中。我的一个朋友本来觉得在网络上种菜偷菜挺无聊的，但他最终还是去偷菜了，现实的寂寞需要找到一种排遣，他发现在偷菜的人群里原来很热闹。

　　寂寞本来是一个人的，却常常演变成一群人的狂欢。所以年轻的男男女女们才会在繁重的工作之余，三五成群，结伴去K歌，结伴去酒吧。通宵算什么，反正一个人在家也是寂寞。寂寞会生长啊，越长越大，还会突然袭击。有时候，你在热闹的人群中，你突然就感觉到了寂寞，这种寂寞最寂寞。

　　很多时候，寂寞的我们怕一个人待着，当自己一个人的时候，就非得找个伴吗？其实我们应该学会和自己相处。很多时候，一个人也可以不寂寞，而和别人在一起却很寂寞。很多寂寞其实都是可以忍受或排遣的，我们可以看看书，可以到大自然中走走，可以听听音乐，可以看看经典电影……寂寞是一种人人都得过的流行病，不要害怕，也不要难过，重要的是我们怎么对待寂寞，让寂寞的自己充实起来。

　　Get A Through Understanding Of Oneself 彻悟自己

　　In all one’s lifetime it is oneself that one spends the most time being with or dealing with. But it is precisely oneself that one has the least understanding of.

　　When you are going upwards in life you tend to overestimate yourself. It seems that everything you seek for is within your reach; luck and opportunities will come your way and you are overjoyed that they constitute part of your worth. When you are going downhill you tend to underestimate yourself, mistaking difficulties and adversities for your own incompetence. It’s likely that you think it wise for yourself to know our place and stay aloof from worldly wearing a mask of cowardice, behind which the flow of sap in your life will be retarded.

　　To get a thorough understanding of oneself is to gain a correct view of oneself and be a sober realist—aware of both one’s strength and shortage. You may look forward hopefully to the future but be sure not to expect too much, for ideals can never be fully realized. You may be courageous to meet challenges but it should be clear to you where to direct your efforts. That’s to way so long as you have a perfect knowledge of yourself there won’t be difficulties you can’t overcome, or obstacles you can’t surmount.

　　To get a thorough understanding of oneself needs self-appreciation. Whether you liken yourself to a towering tree or a blade of grass, whether you think you are a high mountain or a small stone, you represent a state of nature that has its own value. If you earnestly admire yourself you’ll have a real sense of self-appreciation, which will give you confidence. As soon as you gain full confidence in yourself you’ll be enabled to fight and overcome any adversity.

　　To get a thorough understanding of oneself also requires doing oneself a favor when it’s needed. In time of anger, do yourself a favor by giving vent to it in a quiet place so that you won’t be hurt by its flames; in time of sadness, do yourself a favor by sharing

　　it with your friends so as to change a gloomy mood into a cheerful one; in time of tiredness, do yourself a favor by getting a good sleep or taking some tonic. Show yourself loving concern about your health and daily life. As you are aware, what a person physically has is but a human body that’s vulnerable when exposed to the elements. So if you fall ill, it’s up to you to take a good care of yourself. Unless you know perfectly well when and how to do yourself a favor, you won’t be confident and ready enough to resist the attack of illness.

　　To get a thorough understanding of oneself is to get a full control of one’s life. Then one will find one’s life full of color and flavor.

　　人生在世，和“自己”相处最多，打交道最多，但是往往悟不透“自己”。

　　人在走上坡路时，往往把自己估计得过高，似乎一切所求的东西都唾手可得，甚至把运气和机遇也看做自己身价的一部分而喜不自胜。人在不得意时，又往往把自己估计过低，把困难和不利也看作自己的无能，以至把安分守己、与世无争误认为有自知之明，而实际上往往被怯懦的面具窒息了自己鲜活的生命。

　　悟透自己，就是正确认识自己，也就是说要做一个冷静的现实主义者，既知道自己的优势，也知道自己的不足。我们可以憧憬人生，但期望值不能过高。因为在现实中，理想总是会打折扣的。可以迎接挑战，但是必须清楚自己努力的方向。也就是说，人一旦有了自知之明，也就没有什么克服不了的困难，没有什么过不去的难关。

　　要悟透自己就要欣赏自己。无论你是一棵参天大树，还是一棵小草，无论你成为一座巍峨的高山，还是一块小小的石头，都是一种天然，都有自己存在的价值。只要你认真地欣赏自己，你就会拥有一个真正的自我。只有自我欣赏才会有信心，一旦拥有了信心也就拥有了抵御一切逆境的动力。

　　要悟透自己，就要心疼自己。在气愤时心疼一下自己，找个僻静处散散心，宣泄宣泄，不要让那些无名之火伤身；忧伤时，要心疼一下自己，找三五个好友，诉说诉说，让感情的阴天变晴；劳累时，你也要心疼一下自己，为自己来一番问寒问暖，要明白人所拥有的不过是一个血肉之躯，经不住太多的风刀霜剑；有病时，你更要心疼一下自己，惟有对自己的心疼，才能获得战胜疾病的信心和力量。

　　悟透了自己，才能把握住自己，你的生活才会有滋有味！